5 ways to find & be yourself despite external influences

Ways to find & be yourself 

Cultivate positive values about yourself

Being yourself is very difficult if you assume that you are undeserving or worthless, which of course is totally false. Make it a behavior to cultivate positive ideas or feelings about yourself as a person. Commend yourself for all your wonderful ways you donate to the world around you.  In the event that you give yourself the approval you deserve in that case, your identity won't rely upon approval from outside sources or people.

Choose your pleasure and pain paradigms

As humans, we always choose to go from pain and towards pleasure. To feel great about our pursuits and goals they have to stand for some type of pleasure. In order to avoid the things that are out of normal with this core personal values and standards, they have to stand for pain on some known level. In the event that you properly assign these pleasure and pain paradigms, they'll fully support your goal of finding your true self.

Know your individual values

We all possess a built-in group of personal values. If for instance, we lose touch with those values/principles we lose touch with our true self. Whenever we violate those principles we violate our relationship with our true self, which needless to say, it what we are looking for all along. To really be yourself, it is essential that those values are discovered by you and make every effort to live by them at all times.

Choose your passions carefully

You might feel that you have very little amount of control over your passions, but this is a very big lie that no one should ever believe. To make certain that our passions align with this true self they have to maintain harmony with this values and standards. Passions are often influenced by what we think about and whatever we ingest through our five senses. They are all in your control and can help you to find your true self.

Internal alignment

The lack of internal discord is the only path to be at calmness with this true self.  Any misalignment between our life and our standards will prevent us from being totally genuine with ourselves.  Self-credibility is a prerequisite to inner harmony. To become yourself means that you'll require to recognize your core standards or criteria and align with them.

We all are unique and make a valuable contribution. Once you recognize that, it becomes much more stress-free/easier to hook up with your true self and also to feel comfortable being you. There will be external influences seeking to blur the range between who you truly are and who they want you to become. But if you follow these five suggestions, you will always and forever know who you truly are.

Find you self and find your Destiny ..

    

Why do more and more people feel puzzled about who they are real ? 

The issue of personal identity has become surprisingly challenging for both young and older people. While it may seem to be like you can find yourself automatically, in all certainty this is the rarely or never the case.

If we think about it deeply, we realize that a lot of things in life rely upon our capability to connect with our real identity....our true self. In the end, how are we likely to really know what we have to be doing or who we ought to be doing it with if we haven't found and understood who we truly are?

Right from when we are young we try to find out who we truly are by experimenting with a variety of different personalities and identities. Because we have been impressionable, it is merely natural that people put on new versions of ourselves at fairly regular intervals. The less inhibited we have been, a whole lot more quickly will we attempt to imitate whatever attracts us at the moment.

Amid these young years, we totally have no idea who we will become or who we actually are, so we get inspired or rather influenced those all around us, Not knowing that the people we are trying to imitate are struggling to find their own true identity. Because we have been young and inexperienced, we just presume that as time passes by we will work out how to be ourselves. But these the influences makes it difficult to be yourself because they have a tendency to mistake the pressing issue of finding your true self. As time passes, it may become a lot more challenging to recognize our true self aside from those external influences. By the end we find ourselves realizing the fact you truly don't really know who you are.

To become yourself you need to find your true self 

"Find Myself" gets approximately five million queries monthly in the Google search engine. That presents how common it is for folks to feel disconnected from their true self and exactly how interested they can be in reestablishing that lost connection or creating a new one. Think about you, are you enthusiastic about learning how to be yourself in a more meaningful and complete way?

Even for many who feel somewhat in touch with their true nature, the frequent barrage of the pressure of exterior expectations makes it extremely difficult to maintain and keep that core connection within. So, determining how to be yourself is a required first step, but to keep being yourself at all times, you must find a way to stay connected & grounded.

To Be Continue ...........

How To Have a Successful Teenage Life

Chasing Your Dreams Or Chasing your parents Goals....

It’s not a good thing when your dreams are in opposition to your parents’ wishes. It hurts when we don’t have the support of the people closest to us. It also hurts when we think about going against their wishes. This happens because picking between family and a dream is like trying to pick between two parts of yourself. To pick your family means sacrificing a cherished goal. It means sacrificing part of who you are. But to pick your dream means that you’ll be disappointing your family. Some youth in this position will even face their family’s anger.

If you feel like this describes you, then here are some things you need to remember:

1. Your parent wants what is best for you.

Parents worry a lot about their children. They worry that they won’t be happy, or that the child will have a poor standard of living in the future. There are very few parents who truly want to sabotage their child’s life. So if one or both of your parents oppose your dream, it is probably motivated by love.

2. Your personal definition of a “successful life”

While your parents may want what is best for you, whether your life is a success or not is up to you. Think about what you would call a successful life. Lots of money? A life full of passion and no regrets? One with lots of friends and family? There is no wrong answer here. Whatever you think of as successful is what you need to pursue.

3. Your personal goals

Once you have your definition, you need to set personal goals so that you can achieve success. You need both long-term and short-term goals. When it comes time to make a decision in your life make sure it pushes you towards completing one of your goals. Often, people can get so caught up in trying to survive through the day that they lose sight of their goals all together. Then, several years down the road, they wonder why they aren’t successful.

4. It’s okay to fail

It is easy to pursue goals for a short period of time. It becomes much harder when you face obstacles that push you back. Remember that it is okay to fail. This is part of how we learn to do better. Take a deep breath, then go back at it again. Remain determined.

5. Remember that your parent loves you to the best of their ability

Sometimes parents fail at expressing their love for children. They may not say or do the right thing in a given situation. You may crave their support only to find yourself in an argument with them. When that happens, it hurts. It can feel like a knife piercing your soul. Tell yourself this phrase every time you feel this way, “My parent loves me to the best of his or her ability.” It may take time, even years, but eventually, your mind will convince your heart. Your parent may never show you love the way that you want, but you will still understand that they love you.

6. Find a community that understands

If you feel like you’re struggling and won’t be able to make it, then you need to find a community that can understand what you are going through. Fortunately, the internet age makes that easier. Find online groups that share similar interests with you. Plug into those groups. Make friends. You are never alone, but sometimes you have to go searching for the people who will support you.

Enough, Please Stop !!!!

This is the command you have to practice in your life .

Why???

Because most of the time our life moving in routing pattern and due to that routing path, we slowly getting used with some addictions. which mean some needs we began to think as our daily habit.

some of them even make us feel better in temporary in the long term helps drag us into serious issues with 

Let's take an example when you walking along in street, suddenly you get attention on chocolate cake slice which was displaying in the pastry shop.Because of  nice presentation, you stop and looking at it,in same time your brain bringing your memory which is ,past experience of eating chocolate after you arguing with your mind you decide to try it.so finally you enjoying the moment of eating smooth chocolate fudge cake slice.that's the end of your first day. 

After few days later your brain tries to bring this memory to your mind , Because of tv commercial or another incident. So it makes you thinking about the cake and now you planning for buy it. basically, that is the way our sub concise mind controlling our self.
That's why we have start controlling our mind and stop being to drive our feeling according to past experiences. 

Please Don't Copy ......

Yes, that's what I mean.Facing to day to day challenges, just like writing an exam.But this exam something like keeps going with our lifetime as well as self-study base.And there is an another unique feature on it, which mean each and every person  facing on a different exam paper, that's why never try to consider this exam as  an ordinary exam, because of that unique features on it.And there are no syllabus or past papers to practice.Maybe, this sound make you boring, no worry let me explain further ...

Let's take a look about this, everyone in this society has unique qualities and most of them have different capacities, and basically it base on their experiences and the way they born. Not only that sometimes it depend on their view of the looking at the life.

 Basically, I was trying to explain that differentiation of each person and why they unique from one to another.In our life journey, every day we have to go through in different challenges, and the way you face on them decide your position in life.Some challenges can make you weak and some of them make you stronger.

When the challenges arrived only we can test our capacity and energy, not only that you can be realized how does your brain learning the life lessons also.And apply those experience on your life exam, you can't teach them to others as it is, sometimes you can explain as a theory but you may not able to deliver same experience because no one in your shoes to feel it. But using it as an example maybe we can inspire other's lives.But don't copy their experience and try to find an answer on your question paper.Because it never feels comfortable to you.

This life exam you can't copy and write other's answers on your paper, because everyone facing with different paper  and each paper different from one to another.Please don't copy this exam, it will make you only depression and frustration.

The bottom line is, spends the  every single moment of your life learning something and puts some life goal and chase them, help to inspire lives and enjoy the every moment in your life.Learn the life lessons and increase your capacity.

Be Happy all the time 

Life is a challenge, every day we have to face all these challenges and have to go through all fo them.It doesn't matter either you like or dislike.Because this something everyone has to do without having any option.

If I use an example for further explain, this situation you may get clear understand about the situation.It just likes a sitting on a roller coaster, when the ride start you can either scream or enjoy the ride. Here is the point if you choose to scream, it doesn't make you feel greater at the end of the ride.Not only that, you may be realized at the end, most of them on that side as well also. Same like in real life, most of them like to scream rather than living in the moment.So have to learn how to enjoy the ride when it  moving.And that is the challenge as well as the key to makes you feel better in all the time.

In my personal experience, what I realized that better way to living is do what makes feel better, which mean do what I like to do and let go of your past, but you should have to  learn the lessons from past.And keep moving.

Life is about moving forward, facing to challenges one after another.You have to keep going on......

“When you are joyful, when you say yes to life and have fun and project positivity all around you, you become a sun in the center of every constellation, and people want to be near you"

Shannon L. Alder

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